Would you send a child of yours to CH?

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Would you send a child of yours to CH?

Of course
16
44%
Only now it's changed
5
14%
Only if it was the same as when I was there
5
14%
No way
10
28%
 
Total votes: 36

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Post by jtaylor » Tue Feb 22, 2005 5:44 pm

Agreed- but how would you draw the distinction between the abstract "institution" and the people?

I know what you're saying, but it's an interesting one to explore. There is definitely a feeling of the institution and it's ethos, in contrast to the people and their ethos??

With the formation of the CH Association, I'm absolutely committed to us ensuring that the ethos and feel of the instituiton (or association) becomes the same as the ethos of the people (rather than vice-versa, unless we feel the ethos of the people needs modifyin?)

Have I lost anyone yet?!?

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Post by englishangel » Tue Mar 01, 2005 9:45 pm

24 is not a very big sample and probably anyone on here is here because they have fond feelings. I am one of the 20% who voted 'no way'. I wanted to go when I went but I would never send a child of mine to boarding school. (Academic now anyway as rhey are 16 and 19 but it was not something I entertained at the time).

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Post by TA » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:07 pm

Maybe it's because I have the good fortune to live abroad, which widens ones views, and because boarding schools basically do not exist here but I notice that no one ask's the questions: do we know that the CH enviroment is correct for our child and why do we have children if we want to send them away from home ?

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Post by Great Plum » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:24 pm

TA wrote:Maybe it's because I have the good fortune to live abroad, which widens ones views, and because boarding schools basically do not exist here but I notice that no one ask's the questions: do we know that the CH enviroment is correct for our child and why do we have children if we want to send them away from home ?
It's my girlfriend's arguement for not sending any children we have toa boarding school...

my argument is the great time I hadat CH and that I want my children to have the best chances at school, something which I think CH gave me - whether it will in 20 years time, I don't know...
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Post by jtaylor » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:30 pm

I would say that I had far greater opportunities at CH than I ever would have had at home - partly due to the facilities on-offer, but also the committment of the staff and being around your friends 24/7.
I also felt that it enhanced my relationship with my parents - I appreciated them more when I saw them - and I developed my self-confidence and independence earlier than I would have otherwise.
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Post by TA » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:31 pm

You may have had a good time, the school may have helped your character, but how can you be sure it will do that for your child ?

It's strange that so many parents sent children to CH " for the good of the child " that child would have presumably gladly been at home with his /her parents. To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.

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Post by Great Plum » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:33 pm

TA wrote:You may have had a good time, the school may have helped your character, but how can you be sure it will do that for your child ?

It's strange that so many parents sent children to CH " for the good of the child " that child would have presumably gladly been at home with his /her parents. To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
What if the child wanted to go?

I didn't want to go anywhere else...
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Post by ben ashton » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:35 pm

i chose to go to CH myself, partly to get away from parents!

"obviously not qualified"?
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Post by TA » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:36 pm

jtaylor wrote:I would say that I had far greater opportunities at CH than I ever would have had at home - partly due to the facilities on-offer, but also the committment of the staff and being around your friends 24/7.
I also felt that it enhanced my relationship with my parents - I appreciated them more when I saw them - and I developed my self-confidence and independence earlier than I would have otherwise.
But where are your freinds fom home that you met before joining CH ?

Where are your roots ?

Don't get me wrong. CH is presumably fine for some..however we can never be sure which children will " survive " there. I am proud of the school I am proud to have been there, but for me it was a disaster.

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Post by jtaylor » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:36 pm

I certainly wanted to go, having seen how much my brother loved it. I got into two other local public schools, and although my parents could really have afforded to pay for either, they gave me a genuine choice - there was no choice, CH without hesitation!
To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
I would question the comment about not fit to be parents - this assume that the child is SENT AWAY - a very negative view of it.
Perhaps it's actually the parent being hugely selfless in their choice - my parents missed us both hugely, and agonised at length before "sending" my brother to CH........

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Post by palgsm93 » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:38 pm

TA wrote:You may have had a good time, the school may have helped your character, but how can you be sure it will do that for your child ?

It's strange that so many parents sent children to CH " for the good of the child " that child would have presumably gladly been at home with his /her parents. To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
Watching grown adults in floods of tears as they walk to their car doesn't sound like bad parenting to me.

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Post by ben ashton » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:38 pm

I got into London Nautical and another local school, my dad actually wanted me to stay at home!
I made far more friends at CH than I would have at home..
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Post by TA » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:42 pm

remember in the late sixties early seventies CH was a fairly barbaric place. I still fail to read one viable arguement for sending children away. The " I had a good time " arguement is not viable.

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Post by ben ashton » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:44 pm

looks good on the CV?!
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Post by jtaylor » Thu Mar 03, 2005 12:46 pm

ben ashton wrote:looks good on the CV?!
Yeah, guess it does - but keep having to explain to people that it "wasn't one of those types of public schools"

I think that going to a public school can be a real negative in some circles, depending on the job/environment you're on. I'm sure that very few people in my company went to public school, let alone boarding..

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