FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by midget » Mon Sep 28, 2009 8:44 pm

I don't know whether it was the effects of being evacuated and only seeing my parents once a year, or if I was simply an unfeeling child. I wasn't homesick at all as far as I can remember, and it was a case of like it or lump it. Certainly if I had any grumbles my parents (particularly Mum) would have assumed that the school could do no wrong.
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by lonelymom » Mon Sep 28, 2009 8:54 pm

Vonny wrote:Do pupils HAVE to go away for leave weekends?
I don't think so, but it is certainly encouraged that they do so, and I think they all do. Those who live too far away from the school to go home often go and stay with school friends.
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by Momto2 » Mon Sep 28, 2009 10:14 pm

I think you're right Lonelymom as there are always host houses listed.

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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by IQ84 » Tue Sep 29, 2009 12:31 pm

[quote="Katharine"]I don't want to belittle anyone's feelings so please take this as a genuine query.

It was never easy saying goodbye, but I don't remember the traumas that some of you are describing. When we were overseas we never saw them from one end of the term to the next, but we did see them every holiday, unlike earlier generations of expat parents.

Was I an unfeeling Mum - or was I lucky, I don't know?

Katherine - I was sort of glad you posted this. You were not an unfeeling Mum, any more than I am an unfeeling 'Dad'. My daughter had her first Leave Weekend and apart from an emotional reunion (a few tears!), we (my wife and I) have been trauma free and don't seem to be anxiously peering at the calender wringing our hands etc! I suppose everyone is different in terms of how they approach the boarding experience. Its our first but so far, everything is fine. My daughter is getting on well and is enjoying school very much.

So not to worry! there are others like you out there! :)

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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by Katharine » Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:04 pm

Thanks IQ84, and welcome to the forum! I did wonder whether I should post it or not!

Seriously though, our two were brought up to expect to go to a boarding school, I can remember their shock and horror when they discovered that their father had not been to one! I'm sure the expectation made a difference to them and us.
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by Great Plum » Tue Sep 29, 2009 9:40 pm

I know from experience that the staff also like having the weekend off, especially after an inspection!

When I came to CH in 92, there was one leave day (just Saturday) and one leave weekend a term... The exception was the summer term where there was one leave weekend and no leave day - Parents' Day counted for the leave day...
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by NEILL THE NOTORIOUS » Wed Sep 30, 2009 12:09 pm

This has become a very interesting Topic.

I can't analyse the gender of those contributing, or of their Offspring BUT ---- do I get the impression that the Girls are more affected by Homesickness, both as Parents and also as Pupils ?

Is it a contributing factor that Boys are expected to exhibit the "Stiff Upper Lip" --- no matter what their inner feelings are ?
and of course --- tears would be unthinkable after the age of, say, 13 ?

I noticed that one Post implied that their time at CH,-- like mine, was during the War Years.
Travel, of any sort was restricted "Is your Journey really necessary ?" Even our away Matches were only in the regions of Dulwich, Lancing and Brighton.
So under those circumstances, Boarding meant just that, and Visits by Parents (Mine) meant Saturday and Sunday, accommodated in one of the Railway Cottages, and some boys got one or none a Term !

"Times is Different" now--- and perhaps Homesickness was easier to cope with then ? I don't know, it would be interesting to hear from other "Geriatric" OBs --------- Perhaps I was just insensitive ! :oops:

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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by englishangel » Wed Sep 30, 2009 2:19 pm

YOu went as far as Dulwich? I was never in a school team but I don't think they played any matches more than about 10 miles away? Kerren would know.
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Post by J.R. » Wed Sep 30, 2009 2:55 pm

Your beloved Head Mistress probably belived that 10 miles was already 10 miles too much temptation for her young impressionable gels ! !

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Post by Fjgrogan » Wed Sep 30, 2009 4:16 pm

I never made it into a school team of any description, so the only away matches I can remember hearing about were Poles Convent (which I think was in Ware) and Herts and Essex - presumably a school, rather than a counties team? As you say, Kerren will know; she was sporty.
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Post by anniexf » Wed Sep 30, 2009 4:28 pm

We played the Royal Masonic School occasionally.

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Post by J.R. » Wed Sep 30, 2009 4:50 pm

anniexf wrote:We played the Royal Masonic School occasionally.
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by englishangel » Wed Sep 30, 2009 7:20 pm

It's a girl's school, just along the road from us here, in Rickmansworth. My older son had a girlfriend at RMS. I had a boss a few years ago who was at Poles, she would be about Kerren's age.
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by Katharine » Wed Sep 30, 2009 7:30 pm

I think it may be more like 25 mile radius Mary. Herts & Essex High School was in Bishop's Stortford, other places we played included St Albans Grammar (some of my primary school friends were there and played against us!), and Hitchin High School. Poles Convent was just north of Ware on the A10, it was about the southern boundary of my father's parish - the northern being St Edmund's College (RC Boys school). He had good relations with both and talked about his A10 ecumenical movemnet.
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Re: FIRST LEAVE WEEKEND

Post by kerrensimmonds » Wed Sep 30, 2009 8:59 pm

This has turned into an interesting reminiscence for an over 60's person who is now disabled (blue badge to prove it - but I still wonder how much CH is to blame). I remember going to Poles Convent for Cricket and Hockey in my later years, and to other places for those and also for Tennis. But I have no recollection of distance - just the time we had to endure in a rickety coach which was pretty horrendous in itself. The longer the journey, the less prepared we were to enter the sporting arena at the other end. Sorry to disappoint the readers of this thread....
The best encounters were, of course, those which were At Home. On our own territory, we trounced everyone in all sports, in my day. And I am sure that I have posted elsewhere on this Forum my recollection of pride in escorting a visiting Team to Dining Hall for a post-match tea. I threw a CH rock bun up towards the ceiling in Dining Hall, and down it came - totally intact still! - accompanied by a clump of plaster. OOhhhh dear!

Back to the first Leave Weekend. I hope that all the children who went home for the first time (especially the new Second Formers, who have only been in the school for a couple of weeks) got back to the school safely and soundly - albeit maybe a little tearfully - and that all will go well with them for the next few weeks until Half Term.

It's a stark contrast to 52 years ago (aarrgghh!!) when I was admitted to Hertford and left to sink or swim until my parents came to take me out on the first Long Saturday, which must have been about five weeks into the term. I have a photo of me and my Dad, taken in a stiffly composed position, outside the gates of Hatfield House on that first Long Sat in 1957. I look so proud in my CH uniform, including velour winter hat! In those days, mobile phones and e mail had not been invented. It was just the regular Sunday letter - which had to be read by the Ward/House mistress before it could be posted to one's mum and dad. But that was how it was, in those days. I'm not complaining.....
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