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Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 1:08 am
by CHblogspot
Hello everyone i am new to the site and would like to inform you of the fact that you are celebrating and discussing a hell-hole- i was bullied so badly at CH that after attempting suicide my parents pulled me out of the school - not least after discovering that i had brought attention to the bullying numerous times with no response
Re: Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 1:10 pm
by fra828
What era were you at CH? Am presuming you were at Horsham not Hertford. Sorry have just seen your previous posts, just read your blog from 2011; you aren't very new to the site, but your experiences at early 21st century CH are very shocking and am wondering why no staff or sympathetic pupils actually witnessed what was happening.
Re: Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 1:29 pm
by CHblogspot
I attended just after 2000 and left just prior to Peter Southern leaving as Headmaster
Re: Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 4:37 pm
by sejintenej
One of the big problems for a bully's victim (and it was doubly so at CH where pupils were normally out of sight of an adult) is the sure knowledge that "accidents" can happen, perhaps in the dormitory, if any report is made.
Equally, for staff, if they take action then the bully's mates might just take it upon themselves to create an "accident" to the victim. I, for one, got a rugby boot in the head on one occasion (sadly an hour after I heard I had become an orphan again) even though I had not confirmed the name of the person who sent me to the sicker.
Running away was not uncommon, CHBlogspot's solution somewhat rarer though another but successful case has been aired on this forum.
CHBlogspot; just live with it. You WILL get bullied in outside life, by people who are far better at doing psychological damage.
Re: Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 6:04 pm
by Mid A 15
Haven't we been here before?
viewtopic.php?f=18&t=3977&p=121502#p121502
I don't wish to trivialise the effects of bullying at all. As I said on the original thread I was a victim too at times and it undoubtedly leaves its scars but I do find it strange that a blogger, with a blog containing just one meaningful post, from more than two years ago makes a sudden reappearance.
Re: Hello
Posted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 1:59 pm
by SAS
Likewise; most odd.
Re: Hello
Posted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 12:53 pm
by time please
Have to agree it was a hell hole.
With masters who nowadays would be locked up ( apart from one or two who were actually human) and a headmaster who could have starred in " Silence of the Lambs".
hated the place and have not forgiven my parents for sending me there. CH 1968-74.
Re: Hello
Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 3:47 pm
by Ever Bluer
time please wrote:...a headmaster who could have starred in " Silence of the Lambs".
True. DHN seemed to take a savage delight in ripping children to shreds. He did it to me and I haven't recovered.
Re: Hello
Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 4:03 pm
by jtaylor
Can I remind posters about the Terms of Use
http://chforum.info/php/viewtopic.php?f=17&t=2849
Particularly relating to defamation of individuals and/or bringing the reputation of CH into disrepute.
Thanks.
Julian
Re: Hello
Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 7:28 am
by time please
Just saying it as it was!
Re: Hello
Posted: Tue Sep 24, 2013 9:36 pm
by Avon
jtaylor wrote:...bringing the reputation of CH into disrepute.
Isn't it doing a good enough job of that itself?
Re: Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 25, 2013 5:39 pm
by anniexf
time please wrote:
Just saying it as it was!
...and, sadly (I have it on good authority), still is. Sorry but hiding unpleasant truths does no good to anyone. I know of at least one recent victim who's had to be removed. If this means I'll be banned from this Forum, so be it.
Re: Hello
Posted: Wed Sep 25, 2013 5:50 pm
by jtaylor
Every school has it's isolated problems. I guess boarding isn't for everyone too.
The active positive Old Blue community demonstrates the positive affection felt by the vast majority.
I set up this forum for positive Old Blue, Blue (and more recently parental) interaction, to foster the positive future of the school......I am keen this focus is continued.
I don't like/want to ban anyone, and hence my request above.
If you have concerns over the approach of the school to its pupils, or the ethos it is fostering, please do take this up directly with the school, or elsewhere - but not here.
It gets too emotional, and will always be a one-sided conversation, with no right or ability to reply either from the school or those involved.
So I'm locking this topic for the moment.
Julian