As an OB from the 50's I'll go along with those comments. Life in those days of rationing etc. was not easy and CH was not a bed of roses so a few of us point out the negatives.anniexf wrote:I agree with that, Julian; CH these days, and even when you were there, offers far more than academic opportunity. It's almost breathtaking to read about the range of activities CH offers, and the interests it caters for - far more than you could get at the local comprehensive. And it was Barwen, I believe, who deeply regretted depriving his son of the social aspect of CH. It's certainly a unique school - no wonder there's such a fight for places!jtaylor wrote:I'm not talking just academic achievement - I certainly wasn't up there academically, and no school could make me so.
It's the other elements that are more important in my opinion - a rounded education with diverse opportunities to build on interests and talents, without the obsession with purely academic achievement. Also, the genuine ability to mix with all backgrounds, in contrast to the high end public schools who,often, end up looking down on everyone else...
Those are the things I got from CH - in parallel with the good solid education.
It is not like that now. A few ideas to mull over:
a) what is the alternative? In some places state schools have an abyssmal reputation and there is always the fear of drugs and alcohol. At least CH tries very hard to control those.
b) what sort of people would your child be mixing with? At CH you can be sure that the majority are turning into highly motivated people who can mix with any strata that they may find themselves in. In the outside world - who knows?
c) CH is not like home. Some of the options can be a bit tough (but still controlled to be safe) and having been through those your child will have no hesitation when faced with uncomfortable situations in later life.
d) does your son have the opportunities locally which exist at CH? I've been involved with two aspects of youth work outside schools - the public one was shocking and not what I would want my children to go through. Unfortunately those involved were a behometh and I couldn't change the thinking.
e) there is a form of discipline which will allow your son to learn how to learn, to understand right and wrong, to control a need to watch TV instead of doing homework ...................
It is not going to be easy for you but be satisfied that your son will benefit and in twenty - thirty years time you will know you made the right choice.