Unofficial Christ's Hospital Forum

It does go on a bit but it would keep Amy's name

Great Plum wrote:

Deb GP wrote:Oh how I really HATE that. Almost has much as I detest being referred to as "Ms" Smith. (rant surpressed here)

Mrs Plum nearly attacks people if they call her Ms Plum...

Some peeps have a problem. Lets say you go to a shop and they address your wife by name (which is good public relations and also polite). Is she Miss or Mrs? They don't know.

When I was training on the counter of a bank the rule was:

If the female looks under 25 address her as Mrs because the average young women was (then) looking for a husband or already had one.

If the female looked over 25 address her as Miss; she is either fed up with the old man and regrets marrying him or she is unmarried.

The coming of Ms solves a lot of problems.

As for Mrs Plum; does she look too young to be marrried or is she fed up with the "Great" one? answers on a postcard

soc wrote:Why not go for a double barrel name like Amy Leadbeater-skywalker?

Over here a wife keeps her maiden name but also uses her husband's name.

As my wife married me because I was the only person who could pronounce her name properly you can imagine the possible consequences. (It actually means "firefly".) Her cousin was a lecturer (in building) in Barking; because of the proninciation problems he became known by one and all as Mr Lucy.

At work we had a woman who kept her maiden name after she married; when we closed down I did the requisite glowing HR letter using the only name I knew - it didn't go down well and I had to redo it.

Well it wouldnt be that suggestion Soc, it would (hopefully, if he deicdes to propose) Mrs Amy Leadbeater Russell.I acutally like Russell so i think i could forsake Leadbeater!

Both sound good to me Amy

sejintenej, why didn't you just look to see if she had a wedding ring on? I know there are some who don't wear one, but may do. Attention to detail and all that.

The trouble is Deb, that sometimes, you can't do right for doing wrong. I have occasions at work when, no matter how much attention to detail I used, I still managed to be wrong. I was forced to discipline someone so I wrote her name, noted the ring so addressed her as Mrs and everything. Only to find the name was false, the ring was false and she was a he who had had a sex change operation but still legally had to be referred to as Mr. Like I say, I couldn't do right for doing wrong.

ROFLMAO - that sounds like a complete HR nightmare. dear, oh dear.

It was damn difficult to keep a straight face during the interview

Soc that has just made me laugh A LOT thank you i needed that after the morning i have had!!!

.... and i always look at the wedding finger on to see if someone is married, with men its easy to tell if they have a ring but have taken it off for some strange reason........ the skin either side of where ring would be is pushed out slightly and looks slightly different!

(now does that make me sound wierd-dont reply! )

Another snarf!
I really must stop drinking coffee at the computer!!

Poor Mrs C, it always happens to you doesn't it!

I am truely glad that I have been able to cheer you up Amy.

Checks his wedding ring, looks at the skin underneath. Oh yes Amy you are right!!

The foolproof method, then, would be to ask outright:

"Excuse me, would you mind if I had a quick peek at your ring?"

- no chance of a misunderstanding there, then.

blondie95 wrote:.... and i always look at the wedding finger on to see if someone is married, with men its easy to tell if they have a ring but have taken it off for some strange reason........ the skin either side of where ring would be is pushed out slightly and looks slightly different!

(now does that make me sound wierd-dont reply! )

I have a habit of doing this too.

One day I was on the tube and some people got on and a man sat down next to me. I didn't really look at him, like in the face, but force of habit, I looked at the finger. And there was the ring. And a moment later he started talking to the person on the other side of him, and I recognised his companion's voice. It was a man I work with who I know lives with a guy, and this was them. So I'm glad he didn't notice me checking for the ring!