Would you send a child of yours to CH?
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Would you send your kids to CH.
24 is not a very big sample and probably anyone on here is here because they have fond feelings. I am one of the 20% who voted 'no way'. I wanted to go when I went but I would never send a child of mine to boarding school. (Academic now anyway as rhey are 16 and 19 but it was not something I entertained at the time).
Maybe it's because I have the good fortune to live abroad, which widens ones views, and because boarding schools basically do not exist here but I notice that no one ask's the questions: do we know that the CH enviroment is correct for our child and why do we have children if we want to send them away from home ?
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It's my girlfriend's arguement for not sending any children we have toa boarding school...TA wrote:Maybe it's because I have the good fortune to live abroad, which widens ones views, and because boarding schools basically do not exist here but I notice that no one ask's the questions: do we know that the CH enviroment is correct for our child and why do we have children if we want to send them away from home ?
my argument is the great time I hadat CH and that I want my children to have the best chances at school, something which I think CH gave me - whether it will in 20 years time, I don't know...
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I would say that I had far greater opportunities at CH than I ever would have had at home - partly due to the facilities on-offer, but also the committment of the staff and being around your friends 24/7.
I also felt that it enhanced my relationship with my parents - I appreciated them more when I saw them - and I developed my self-confidence and independence earlier than I would have otherwise.
I also felt that it enhanced my relationship with my parents - I appreciated them more when I saw them - and I developed my self-confidence and independence earlier than I would have otherwise.
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You may have had a good time, the school may have helped your character, but how can you be sure it will do that for your child ?
It's strange that so many parents sent children to CH " for the good of the child " that child would have presumably gladly been at home with his /her parents. To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
It's strange that so many parents sent children to CH " for the good of the child " that child would have presumably gladly been at home with his /her parents. To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
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What if the child wanted to go?TA wrote:You may have had a good time, the school may have helped your character, but how can you be sure it will do that for your child ?
It's strange that so many parents sent children to CH " for the good of the child " that child would have presumably gladly been at home with his /her parents. To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
I didn't want to go anywhere else...
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But where are your freinds fom home that you met before joining CH ?jtaylor wrote:I would say that I had far greater opportunities at CH than I ever would have had at home - partly due to the facilities on-offer, but also the committment of the staff and being around your friends 24/7.
I also felt that it enhanced my relationship with my parents - I appreciated them more when I saw them - and I developed my self-confidence and independence earlier than I would have otherwise.
Where are your roots ?
Don't get me wrong. CH is presumably fine for some..however we can never be sure which children will " survive " there. I am proud of the school I am proud to have been there, but for me it was a disaster.
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I certainly wanted to go, having seen how much my brother loved it. I got into two other local public schools, and although my parents could really have afforded to pay for either, they gave me a genuine choice - there was no choice, CH without hesitation!
Perhaps it's actually the parent being hugely selfless in their choice - my parents missed us both hugely, and agonised at length before "sending" my brother to CH........
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I would question the comment about not fit to be parents - this assume that the child is SENT AWAY - a very negative view of it.To be honest my view is that anyone who sends a child away at such a young age is obviously not qualified to be a parent.
Perhaps it's actually the parent being hugely selfless in their choice - my parents missed us both hugely, and agonised at length before "sending" my brother to CH........
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Yeah, guess it does - but keep having to explain to people that it "wasn't one of those types of public schools"ben ashton wrote:looks good on the CV?!
I think that going to a public school can be a real negative in some circles, depending on the job/environment you're on. I'm sure that very few people in my company went to public school, let alone boarding..
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Isn't it a bit self righteous to assume that people who "send away" their kids are unfit parents? I know my relationship with my olds was better for having not been at home with my parents for more than two weeks at one go since the age of 13.
As for being "sent", firstly the alternative schools were rather inadequate and secondly I'd read too many Enid Blyton books not to want to try the adventure of boarding school for myself.
Roots are where you put them and let them grow. It's a mindset - not a place IMO. Now that I'm married, I don't see my "roots" at my parents house anymore - especially as they've moved from my childhood home. Yeah - there's a fondness and all that, but I can't get nostalgic about it.
As for being "sent", firstly the alternative schools were rather inadequate and secondly I'd read too many Enid Blyton books not to want to try the adventure of boarding school for myself.
Roots are where you put them and let them grow. It's a mindset - not a place IMO. Now that I'm married, I don't see my "roots" at my parents house anymore - especially as they've moved from my childhood home. Yeah - there's a fondness and all that, but I can't get nostalgic about it.
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